Parent Corner #34: Give it Away
Discover | Develop | Give

Troy Farley • FCA Sports Leagues Director
October 3, 2026

5 Minute Read

There is an idea about purpose that I haven't been able to shake from a quote I recently read:

The purpose of life is to DISCOVER your gifts.
The work of life is to DEVELOP your gifts.
The meaning of life is to GIVE your gifts away.
  • Discover.
  • Develop.
  • Give.

Those three words take me back a long way.

Years ago, I felt like God gave me a compass for what I was supposed to spend my life doing:

Help people DISCOVER and DEVELOP their gifts for Jesus.

The older I get, the more I realize how much that compass has shaped my life. And honestly, it explains a lot about why I care so much about FCA Sports.

Why 46 Weeks?

We operate FCA Sports nearly year-round.

46 weeks throughout the calendar year.

Sometimes I look at that number and think we're crazy.

Soccer becomes basketball - Basketball becomes soccer again - Then volleyball - Camps. Flag football - Cheer - REPEAT and around we go.

But the sports have never really been the point.
They're the opportunity.

Every practice, game, conversation, win, loss, mistake, new friendship and hard moment gives a kid another opportunity to discover something about who God created them to be.

Maybe a kid discovers:

  • I can lead.
  • I love encouraging people.
  • I'm a great teammate.
  • I can do hard things.
  • I'm good at bringing people together.
  • I care about the kid nobody else notices.

And yes, sometimes they discover they can really shoot a basketball, kick a soccer ball or throw a football.

That's great too.

Because gifts come in all kinds of packages.

The question is what happens next.

DISCOVER Isn't Enough

Once we discover a gift, we have to develop it.

That's where sports can be such an incredible classroom.

  • You practice.
  • You fail.
  • You listen.
  • You try again.
  • You learn from a coach.
  • You encourage a teammate.
  • You keep showing up.
Little by little, something God placed inside you begins to grow.

Scripture puts it this way:

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others.” — 1 Peter 4:10

Notice the progression.

You've received something.

Now you're supposed to use it.

But sometimes our kids need someone else to see the gift before they can see it themselves.
Ray Discovers Something

Ray wasn't the best player on his team: He knew it too.

There were kids who were faster. Kids who scored more. Kids who seemed to make everything look easy.

For a while, Ray assumed that meant they had something he didn't.

They had the gift.

Then one practice, Coach pulled Ray aside.

“Do you know what happens every time someone on this team makes a mistake?”

Ray shook his head.

“You're the first person to encourage them.”

Ray hadn't noticed. Coach had.

Then Coach said something Ray wouldn't forget:

“You see people, Ray. That's a gift.”

That sentence stayed with him.

So Ray started paying attention.

  • When a teammate missed a shot, Ray was there.
  • When the new kid didn't know where to stand, Ray helped him.
  • When practice got hard and everyone got quiet, Ray found a way to bring some energy.

At first, it was something Ray did without thinking.

Then he started doing it on purpose.

He was developing his gift.

And eventually something changed.

Ray stopped asking: “What am I good at?” and started asking: “How can what I'm good at help somebody else?”

That's when a gift becomes more than talent.

  • You discover it.
  • You develop it.
  • Then you give it away.

And parents, maybe there's a question for us buried inside Ray's story:

What do I see in my kid that they may not see in themselves yet?

Maybe part of our job is helping them name it.

GIVE

I don't want our kids to discover their gifts simply so they can become more successful.

I don't want them developing their gifts only so they can collect trophies, followers, scholarships, applause or accomplishments.

Those things may come.

But there's something bigger available.

Give it away.

  • Use your leadership to help somebody else.
  • Use your encouragement to lift up a teammate.
  • Use your creativity to build something.
  • Use your strength to protect somebody.
  • Use your influence to point people toward Jesus.
  • Use whatever God has placed in your hands to serve the person standing in front of you.

That's purpose.

Parents, This Includes Us

This is also why I keep working to build a library of resources for our FCA Sports parents.

  • Parent Corner.
  • The Ray and Meg Files
  • Devotionals.
  • Stories.

Conversations that hopefully make their way from a phone screen to a dinner table, car ride or sideline.

I'm not creating these because families need more content.

We have plenty of content.

I'm praying something SPARKS.

Something that makes a kid—or maybe a parent—wonder:

What has God put inside me?

Then: How can I develop it?

And eventually: Who can I give it to?

Because maybe somewhere during those 46 weeks, a kid discovers something.

  • Maybe a coach calls something out of them.
  • Maybe a parent sees something they hadn't noticed before.
  • Maybe a story about Ray or Meg starts a conversation.
  • Maybe a season of soccer becomes the place where a kid realizes they were made to lead.

And maybe years later, that gift gets given away in a place that has absolutely nothing to do with sports.

That's the dream. More Than Sports

So yes, we'll keep playing games.

We'll keep keeping score.

We'll keep practicing, competing, laughing and learning.

But underneath all of it is something much bigger.

  • DISCOVER your gifts.
  • DEVELOP your gifts.

And then don't keep them for yourself.

GIVE them away.
  • For your teammates.
  • For your family.
  • For your community.
  • For the person God puts in front of you.
  • For Jesus.

That's my purpose.

That's the purpose behind these leagues.

And maybe that's a pretty good picture of the purpose of life.

Discover. Develop. Give.

Win the Day,

Troy Farley

FCA Sports Leagues Director


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In fact, some of the most important things in life don't require any talent at all." Ray looked puzzled. "Like what?" Aggie smiled. "Oh, honey. You better sit down. Grandma's got something to show you!" She reached into the pocket of her sweater and pulled out an old, folded piece of paper. The edges were worn, the creases deep, and the handwriting looked like it had been there for years. "What's that?" Ray asked. Aggie smiled as she carefully unfolded it. "This belonged to your grandpa Jack." Ray leaned in a little closer. "Grandpa Jack wrote that?" "He sure did. Your grandpa was a man of many talents, but he always believed that some of the most important things in life had nothing to do with talent at all." She handed Ray the paper. "He wrote these ten things down a long time ago. Said they were worth remembering. And you know what? I think he was right." Ray looked down at the faded handwriting. 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I turn 42 next month. And I've already made a decision about 42: I want it to be the best year of my life. For my family. Professionally. Personally. Spiritually. And I want to keep doing things that remind me I'm still living, learning and becoming. I want to ride the Seattle to Portland bike ride in honor of my dad. I want to finally learn how to play the piano. I've wanted to for years but have never taken the time. And I want to release my first full children's book, Just a Donkey—the story of my donkey friend JJ, who keeps wrestling with a question I understand more than I'd probably like to admit:“What could somebody like me ever do?” At 42, I still have things I want to try. Things I want to learn. Things I want to create. Ways I want to grow. Which is probably why these words have been sitting with me lately: “There is no cut-off age for development.” I love that. Because I spend a lot of time thinking about the development of kids. Their gifts. Their character. Their faith. Their leadership. Their next step. But this Parent Corner isn't really about them. This one's for us: The parents. Your story isn't over. You still hold the pen. What will you write next? That thought makes me think about one of my favorite authors, C.S. Lewis. I love the way Lewis could take something ordinary—a wardrobe, a painting, a doorway—and suddenly another world was waiting on the other side. I've started thinking about our lives that way. Open doors. A conversation can be an open door. A book can be an open door. A new friendship. A class. A ministry. A job opportunity. A decision to finally get healthy. Picking up something you put down twenty years ago. Trying something you're terrible at. Saying yes to something that scares you. Sometimes the next world doesn't require us to find a magical wardrobe. Sometimes it begins by changing our mind about what is still possible. Dad's Open Door One evening Ray walked into the garage and found Dad staring at an old guitar case. Ray had seen it plenty of times. He'd just never seen it open. “You play guitar?” Dad laughed. “Used to.” He picked it up and tried a chord. It wasn't pretty. Ray laughed. Dad did too. “I was actually pretty good once.” “So why'd you stop?” Dad didn't really have an answer. Life, probably. Work. Marriage. Kids. Schedules. Responsibilities. None of them bad. Somewhere along the way, though, “I play guitar” became “I used to play guitar.” Ray looked at him. “So...why don't you play anymore?” Simple question. Hard answer. Dad looked down at the guitar. Then back at Ray. Maybe the door wasn't locked. Maybe he'd just stopped trying the handle. So Dad played again. Badly. Then again the next night. And again. A few weeks later, Ray walked through the garage and heard music. Not perfect music. Developing music. And maybe that was the point. We Don't Graduate From Growth There is no age where God looks at us and says: That's enough development for you. Scripture keeps giving us language of renewal, growth, transformation and becoming. Romans 12:2tells us to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Not have been transformed. Be transformed. That's movement. That's development. That's an open door. And history gives us some beautiful reminders. Leonard Cohen had already built a life as a writer before beginning his recording career in his early 30s. Giuseppe Verdi could have comfortably let an extraordinary career be finished. Instead, after stepping away from opera, he returned and created Otello in his 70s and Falstaff around 80. Their stories weren't over. Neither is ours. Keep the Doors Open Maybe that's part of what we owe our kids. Not just telling them: Keep learning. Keep growing. Try something new. Don't be afraid to fail. But letting them watch us do it. Let them see Dad be a beginner. Let them see Mom change her mind. Let them watch us read, learn, create, train, apologize, ask questions, develop a gift, deepen our faith or walk through a door we once assumed had closed. Because it's hard to convince our kids that growth is lifelong if they think we stopped growing at 35. Maybe the question this week isn't: What does my kid need to work on? Maybe it's: WHAT'S MY NEXT OPEN DOOR? What have you been curious about? What have you talked yourself out of? What gift have you stopped developing? What has God been nudging you toward? What would you try if you weren't worried about being a beginner again? Your story isn't over. You still hold the pen. There is no cut-off age for development. Keep as many doors open as possible. And when God puts one in front of you...turn the handle. Win the Day Troy Farley FCA Sports Leagues Director

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October 3, 2026 • 6 Minute Read
Parent Corner #34: Give it Away
There is an idea about purpose that I haven't been able to shake from a quote I recently read: The purpose of life is to DISCOVER your gifts. The work of life is to DEVELOP your gifts. The meaning of life is to GIVE your gifts away. Discover. Develop. Give. Those three words take me back a long way. Years ago, I felt like God gave me a compass for what I was supposed to spend my life doing: Help people DISCOVER and DEVELOP their gifts for Jesus. The older I get, the more I realize how much that compass has shaped my life. And honestly, it explains a lot about why I care so much about FCA Sports. Why 46 Weeks? We operate FCA Sports nearly year-round. 46 weeks throughout the calendar year. Sometimes I look at that number and think we're crazy. Soccer becomes basketball - Basketball becomes soccer again - Then volleyball - Camps. Flag football - Cheer - REPEAT and around we go. But the sports have never really been the point. They're the opportunity. Every practice, game, conversation, win, loss, mistake, new friendship and hard moment gives a kid another opportunity to discover something about who God created them to be. Maybe a kid discovers: I can lead. I love encouraging people. I'm a great teammate. I can do hard things. I'm good at bringing people together. I care about the kid nobody else notices. And yes, sometimes they discover they can really shoot a basketball, kick a soccer ball or throw a football. That's great too. Because gifts come in all kinds of packages. The question is what happens next. DISCOVER Isn't Enough Once we discover a gift, we have to develop it. That's where sports can be such an incredible classroom. You practice. You fail. You listen. You try again. You learn from a coach. You encourage a teammate. You keep showing up. Little by little, something God placed inside you begins to grow. Scripture puts it this way: “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others.” — 1 Peter 4:10 Notice the progression. You've received something. Now you're supposed to use it. But sometimes our kids need someone else to see the gift before they can see it themselves. Ray Discovers Something Ray wasn't the best player on his team: He knew it too. There were kids who were faster. Kids who scored more. Kids who seemed to make everything look easy. For a while, Ray assumed that meant they had something he didn't. They had the gift. Then one practice, Coach pulled Ray aside. “Do you know what happens every time someone on this team makes a mistake?” Ray shook his head. “You're the first person to encourage them.” Ray hadn't noticed. Coach had. Then Coach said something Ray wouldn't forget: “You see people, Ray. That's a gift.” That sentence stayed with him. So Ray started paying attention. When a teammate missed a shot, Ray was there. When the new kid didn't know where to stand, Ray helped him. When practice got hard and everyone got quiet, Ray found a way to bring some energy. At first, it was something Ray did without thinking. Then he started doing it on purpose. He was developing his gift. And eventually something changed. Ray stopped asking: “What am I good at?” and started asking: “How can what I'm good at help somebody else?” That's when a gift becomes more than talent. You discover it. You develop it. Then you give it away. And parents, maybe there's a question for us buried inside Ray's story: What do I see in my kid that they may not see in themselves yet? Maybe part of our job is helping them name it. GIVE I don't want our kids to discover their gifts simply so they can become more successful. I don't want them developing their gifts only so they can collect trophies, followers, scholarships, applause or accomplishments. Those things may come. But there's something bigger available. Give it away. Use your leadership to help somebody else. Use your encouragement to lift up a teammate. Use your creativity to build something. Use your strength to protect somebody. Use your influence to point people toward Jesus. Use whatever God has placed in your hands to serve the person standing in front of you. That's purpose. Parents, This Includes Us This is also why I keep working to build a library of resources for our FCA Sports parents. Parent Corner. The Ray and Meg Files Devotionals. Stories. Conversations that hopefully make their way from a phone screen to a dinner table, car ride or sideline. I'm not creating these because families need more content. We have plenty of content. I'm praying something SPARKS. Something that makes a kid—or maybe a parent—wonder: What has God put inside me? Then: How can I develop it? And eventually: Who can I give it to? Because maybe somewhere during those 46 weeks, a kid discovers something. Maybe a coach calls something out of them. Maybe a parent sees something they hadn't noticed before. Maybe a story about Ray or Meg starts a conversation. Maybe a season of soccer becomes the place where a kid realizes they were made to lead. And maybe years later, that gift gets given away in a place that has absolutely nothing to do with sports. That's the dream. More Than Sports So yes, we'll keep playing games. We'll keep keeping score. We'll keep practicing, competing, laughing and learning. But underneath all of it is something much bigger. DISCOVER your gifts. DEVELOP your gifts. And then don't keep them for yourself. GIVE them away. For your teammates. For your family. For your community. For the person God puts in front of you. For Jesus. That's my purpose. That's the purpose behind these leagues. And maybe that's a pretty good picture of the purpose of life. Discover. Develop. Give. Win the Day, Troy Farley FCA Sports Leagues Director

Troy Farley

FCA Sports Leagues Director

September 28, 2026 •
The Ray Files: Fall 2026 — Volume 4

Troy Farley

FCA Sports Leagues Director

September 27, 2026 • 3 Minute Read
Parent Corner #33: The Invitation
Sometimes the biggest moments in a kid’s life start with something incredibly small. An invitation. “Want to come with me?” That’s it. No perfect speech. No pressure. No guarantee they’ll even say yes. Just an invitation. That’s what Ray and Meg are learning in this week’s story as they experience Fields of Faith. They show up expecting an event. They leave thinking about people. Friends. Teammates. Classmates. The kid sitting beside them at lunch. The person they pass in the hallway every day. Because somewhere along the way, the question changes from: “What did I get out of tonight?” to: “Who could I bring with me next time?” Your kid already has a mission field Sometimes we make sharing our faith feel much more complicated than Jesus did. Our kids don’t need a stage. They already have hallways. They don’t need an audience. They already have teammates. They don’t need thousands of followers. They have the kid sitting beside them on the bus, the friend they FaceTime after school, the teammate standing next to them in line, and the classmate they see every single day. Those relationships matter. And sometimes the most powerful thing our kids can do is simply notice the person God has already placed in front of them. Who needs a friend? Who needs encouragement? Who needs to know they belong? Who could I invite? An invitation can change a story Think about how many important moments in our own lives started because somebody invited us. Come sit with us. Come play. Come to practice. Come to church. Come with me. An invitation communicates something before the event ever begins: I thought about you. I want you there. There’s a place for you beside me. That’s something our kids can carry into their schools, teams, neighborhoods, and friendships every day. And parents, we can model it too. Our kids are watching how we welcome people. How we notice people. Whether our circles stay closed or whether we’re willing to make room for somebody new. Maybe one of the best questions we can ask around the dinner table this week isn’t: “How was school?” Maybe it’s: “Who did you notice today?” And then eventually: “Is there someone you could invite?” One field. One invitation. One next step. On Sunday, October 11 at 4 PM, we’ll gather at Lampson Stadium in Kennewick for Fields of Faith. (Learn more HERE) There will be worship. Stories. Jesus. Students from different schools and different teams coming together on one field. But I want to make something really clear: This invitation is for EVERYONE. Bring the whole family. Bring your FCA Sports athlete. Bring your middle school athlete. Your high school athlete. College students, parents, grandparents—you’re invited too. Seriously. All the way up to my dad, who at a young and fit 80 years old better be there too. This isn’t an event where parents need to drop their kids off and come back later. Come experience it together. And afterward, stick around. We’ll keep the night going with a tailgate and free food. But before October 11 gets here, there’s one question worth asking your family: Who will you invite? Maybe it’s a teammate. A classmate. Another family. A neighbor. A coworker. Someone who has never been to anything like this before. You don’t need the perfect words. Sometimes two are enough: Come with me. One field. One invitation. One next step. Win the Day – Troy Farley

Troy Farley

FCA Sports Leagues Director